For you, single mom

Single Mom

Three hours into our journey across the United States we stopped at a Cracker Barrel in West Virginia. Our waitress was a sweet young woman, and towards the end of our meal I asked her if she liked to read. She said she did so I gave her a set of my books. Funny how just little things like that can unlock doors. She immediately opened up. I learned she was a single mom doing the best she could to raise her children. “I don’t have much of a life.” As soon as she said the words she caught herself and said, “Well, it’s a life…” She didn’t need to say anything else. I knew exactly what she was trying to say. This is not the life I expected.

So many emotions flooded over me. You see, I was a single mom at one time. A teenage mother, married, divorced, all before the age of twenty, I felt like I was suffocating at times, like there wasn’t an extra moment in the day to catch my breath. And for all the effort I put into being the best mother I could be, it never felt like enough. I struggled through each day, going to college, picking up my boys from daycare, stopping for fast food because I didn’t have the energy to cook. I was my own worst enemy, looking at all the areas where I lacked, where I wasn’t doing a good enough job.

Fortunately my view has changed since then. When I was in the middle of it, I was blinded by exhaustion and self-doubt. But now, now I look back and see a different woman, a woman who went through a difficult season in life but came out with more determination and strength than she ever had before. A woman who struggled but prevailed. A woman whose children turned out fine simply because she was there for them, and she loved them no matter how difficult the circumstances that surrounded them. So I dedicate this post to all the single moms out there! Keep your chin up. Life gets easier! God’s grace is with you as you journey through this season.