As I prepare for Christmas and the New Year I find myself reflecting on the last year and even the year before that. And I have to admit I’ve struggled; struggled to find a balance between allowing my husband to be the head of our family and helping my husband to be the head of our family. I wish I could say I’m the helpmate he needs each and every day. But I fail…often. So this year will be different. I’m determined it will be different from last year and even the year before.
My vow to my husband as we venture into 2017:
- I vow to pray for you more. I will replace the time I spend worrying with praying for you to have wisdom when making the daily decisions you make for our family.
- I vow to let you make mistakes. So often I try to micromanage your decisions because I’m afraid of the possible pitfalls that could result. But I see that I’m causing you to doubt yourself; to doubt your ability to lead your family and that was never my intentions. So please make each decision with care and prayer and if in the end it doesn’t go the way you had hoped I will support you instead of remind you.
- I vow to love you better. I spend too much time distressing over the small things. I get too busy trying to keep our life in order I forget to treasure you. You do so much for our family and the last thing I’d ever want you to feel is inadequate. I will find more ways to show you that you are enough.
- I vow to respect you more. In everything I do and say I want to show consideration for all you do for our family. I admire you greatly and all you sacrifice for us. May my words reflect the man that you are. May my actions imitate the appreciation I feel inside. May my attitude be one of gratefulness.
Colossians 3: 18-19 Amplified
Wives, be subject to your husbands out of respect for their position as protector, and their accountability to God, as is proper and fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives with an affectionate, sympathetic, selfless love that always seeks the best for them.